What a bunch of wienies. Me me me, this is CHRISTIAN DISCRIMINATION, this is against CHRISTIANS. Well I have a couple of questions:
1. How does NO RELIGIOUS PARAPHANELIA target ONLY christians? Last I heard LOTS of religions include little emblems that can be turned into jewelry. You don't have the monopoly on religious jewelry.
2. NO RELIGION IN SCHOOLS...noone said no CHRISTIAN religion, they said NO RELIGION. That doesn't mean just Christians, that means, no Wiccan religion in school, no Pagan religion in school, no Muslim religion in schools...
You're "War on Christianity" is nothing more than enforcing rules and not only against "christians", but against EVERYONE.
I love this list of the "persecution" suffered by christianity (btw, christians, go talk to a Jew with a number tattooed on their arm they didn't ask for, then you might have an inkling what persectution is). Here'st he list:
The federal government abridges the free exercise of religion in America by:
Regulating churches and other religious organizations through its tax laws.
Limiting religious liberty in the area of public and private education.
Forbidding non-denominational prayer in public schools and at educational ceremonies.
Excluding the Bible from school classrooms and from other school property.
Refusing to permit the religious displays on public property, such as Christmas and Chanukah.
The City council in Oceanside, CA banned public prayers that begin or end with the phrase "in the name of Christ."
Ok ok, let me say first of all, this is all BS. This is expected of EVERY religion, not just "christians". Selfish little bastards, all they want is THEIR religion up, not anyone elses. Notice their gripe is with the state backing a religion, that the state is not backing THEIRS. I don't see them fighting to have Muslim precepts posted beside the 10 Commandments (commandments the most vocal of the "christian" religion can't even seem to follow), they also aren't allowing Wiccan or Pagan precepts up. No no, JUST the 10 Commandments. Somehow though, the word persecution doesn't seem to apply, I mean, I don't see "nailing us up on crosses" on the list, nor "hot irons applied to the feet", nothing like "fired because I was christian" or "arrested because I was christian" nor do I see "run out of town for being christian" or "tried to run me out of town for being christian'. However I can sure find signs of christians persecuting others!
30 Muslim workers fired for praying on job at Dell
http://tennessean.com/local/archives/05/03/66733769.shtml?Element_ID=66733769
Of course, a prayer of 5 minutes is unflexible for an employer, but christians refusing to work on Sundays is not?
Muslim Pilot Fired Due to Religion and Appearance, EEOC Says In Post- 9/11 Backlash Discrimination Suit
http://www.eeoc.gov/press/7-17-03a.html
"Woman says firm fired her for being Wiccan"
http://wwrn.org/article.php?idd=22062&sec=39&con=4
We could go on and on. However, you do see cases of christians fired, yes, and it seems it's always about following rules. Math teacher fired for preaching in class...yes, perhaps because he's a MATH teacher at a PUBLIC school. Woman fired for wearing her cross, yes perhaps because the policy there was NO RELIGIOUS SYMBOLS. See the trick of the eye there? WOMAN FIRED FOR WEARING CROSS, but only later is it pointed out that umm..NO religious symbols were allowed. They weren't firing her for the cross, they fired her for BREAKING THE RULES. I have never heard of an instance of an employer being accused of finding out Bob is a christian and firing him over it. But you hear many cases of finding out that Jill was Pagan, Tom was Muslim....ad nauseum.
What irritates me is not that christians want their rights, it's that convenient hearing thing they got. NO GOVERNMENT BACKED religion they actually seem to hear NO GOVERNMENT BACKED RELIGION except for Christians. NO RELIGIOUS SYMBOLS seems to translate as NO RELIGIOUS SYMBOLS except for Christianity. Wrong, no means no, none means none. And danged if these idiots don't get the job and proceed to disobey and then bitch about it. "*sputters* Well surely they don't mean me!" Yes! You TOO!
To me it's an all or nothing deal here: Either all religion in school or none. You post the 10 Commandments there will have to be equal time AND space for all other religions. You want the Bible in Class, then you must have all other religious books. You want Bible class, you better all religious classes. Or you take it all out. Quite frankly, if you stop and think of how much education these kids will miss just so you can be sure they will hear the Bible and the rest of us be sure all religions get equal time and treatment, you're better off taking it all out. Not to mention somehow I think the christians might rethink their view when we get past Bible Class. In fact, I would make it mandatory that Bible Class appear later than other religions at a random spot so parents can't force our kids to attend Bible class and then yank their kids out so they won't hear "Satan's Wild Ride" (Satanism IS a religion y'know).
We should do that, let's give the christians what they want under the law of our nation. Equal time with the rest of the world religions, in fact, I ask that it's mandatory that all students must attend or cannot graduate....yeah, the christians might get what they want, but boy will they hate it...and they might know how the rest of us feel...
Saturday, November 25, 2006
Monday, November 20, 2006
Where do we start today? Idiots of the world unite!
Please unite, it's very difficult sometimes to know what part of who's being a moron today when you have to pick and choose between so many options.
Ah why not cover something local for a change?
Last night we are on our way back from the MIL's house (that's mother in law) and for the last 3 days there's been heavy enough smoke over the area to blanket us in a fog. So as we pass and I realize that yet again we're going to have to run the baby through this into the house, I think to myself "Thank goodness Beaumont implemented a smoking ban because it's sooo much worse than this!" I thought by their little smoking ban they were saying "we want clean air". Well where the fuck is it? I thought by banning smoking they were all yelling "We want clean poison free air!" Ok, then WTF? Ok ok, let me get this straight:
You want "clean air" and so ban smoking from places you don't HAVE to go to and that noone HAS to work at (there were many non smoking establishments, I know because I kept a list of where NOT to go and they all needed help because we are still recovering from those in the hurricane last year too scared to return to the area), and where's the damn clean air? You mean to tell me it's not acceptable for my ONE cigarette (or in the case of a restaurant, 10 people's ONE cigarette each) in favor of a plant that is burning who knows what and putting out enough air pollution to BLANKET THE AREA IN FOG? And of course there's not just one plant around here, no no no, there are MANY. And the plant puts out enough smoke that you have no choice but to breathe it in, NO CHOICE at all. It even gets into your house. Ok ok, so we can't smoke in places your too stupid to vote with your feet and not come to, but apparently we should all breathe deep in our homes of a type of pollution not even matched in car exhaust? Talk about NO CHOICE, talk about being FORCED to inhale unwanted toxins. I never ever forced anyone to breathe in cigarette smoke, at no time have I ever waited until people were home and then pumped thier house with smoke....but I'M the asshole? It goes to show you, this is not, nor has it ever been for the health of anyone. This is all about we don't want you here. But you do want me to fund your child's education?
Texas raised the tobacco tax simply for child's education. Don't try that guilt trip bullshit on me, emotional blackmail "but you can't object cuz it's fer da chilren". You know what that means, because you don't smoke you obviously don't support education. hmm..gonna go by a t-shirt...
I want to know Beaumont, where's the clean air promised to all the inhabitants of this area? No smoking in Beaumont, that's automatic clean air..where is it?
Ah why not cover something local for a change?
Last night we are on our way back from the MIL's house (that's mother in law) and for the last 3 days there's been heavy enough smoke over the area to blanket us in a fog. So as we pass and I realize that yet again we're going to have to run the baby through this into the house, I think to myself "Thank goodness Beaumont implemented a smoking ban because it's sooo much worse than this!" I thought by their little smoking ban they were saying "we want clean air". Well where the fuck is it? I thought by banning smoking they were all yelling "We want clean poison free air!" Ok, then WTF? Ok ok, let me get this straight:
You want "clean air" and so ban smoking from places you don't HAVE to go to and that noone HAS to work at (there were many non smoking establishments, I know because I kept a list of where NOT to go and they all needed help because we are still recovering from those in the hurricane last year too scared to return to the area), and where's the damn clean air? You mean to tell me it's not acceptable for my ONE cigarette (or in the case of a restaurant, 10 people's ONE cigarette each) in favor of a plant that is burning who knows what and putting out enough air pollution to BLANKET THE AREA IN FOG? And of course there's not just one plant around here, no no no, there are MANY. And the plant puts out enough smoke that you have no choice but to breathe it in, NO CHOICE at all. It even gets into your house. Ok ok, so we can't smoke in places your too stupid to vote with your feet and not come to, but apparently we should all breathe deep in our homes of a type of pollution not even matched in car exhaust? Talk about NO CHOICE, talk about being FORCED to inhale unwanted toxins. I never ever forced anyone to breathe in cigarette smoke, at no time have I ever waited until people were home and then pumped thier house with smoke....but I'M the asshole? It goes to show you, this is not, nor has it ever been for the health of anyone. This is all about we don't want you here. But you do want me to fund your child's education?
Texas raised the tobacco tax simply for child's education. Don't try that guilt trip bullshit on me, emotional blackmail "but you can't object cuz it's fer da chilren". You know what that means, because you don't smoke you obviously don't support education. hmm..gonna go by a t-shirt...
I want to know Beaumont, where's the clean air promised to all the inhabitants of this area? No smoking in Beaumont, that's automatic clean air..where is it?
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Where are all these 5 year olds getting the money?
Boy, what is this, a race to see if I kill myself or you over the stupidity of the majority of the human race?
Yeah yeah, I'm here, having a baby and a surgery keeps you plenty busy I tell you. So anyhow, I have a question...where the fuck are all these kids getting the money and for the record how the hell are they sneaking out and grabbing up some mcnuggets? I'm not going to quote it here, there's the link, now RTFA.
We have two conclusions to draw here, one or both of which must be correct:
1. The children have all the money. The 5 year olds are deciding how to spend the paycheck (no wonder the world's finances are all kinds of fucked up)
2. Parents are too (stupid/retarded/weak/lazy/stupid..oh, I said that) to say NO to their children.
Wait, wait, there's a 3rd...out of the 15 billion people in the world there's 10,000 who overfeed their children for whatever reason (as a indication of love, cuz they don't care, whatever).
Guess what, if your kid looks like Violet from Willy Wonka after she eats the berry, in 98% of the cases one of these is you. There is one thing you can draw from all 3 of these conclusions: You're a fuckin' moron. Yes, Jalestra is back in full, non PC swing. Get the rope and burning torches.
1. If you let your children control your finances I can't help you. You're way too stupid to breathe, do me a favor and kill yourself.
2. If for whatever reason you have a problem telling little Jimmy no, you have two options: Learn to say NO, practice it, and then let little Jimmy have it (the NO you twit, not an uppercut) OR...kill yourself. You're doing your child no favors if your kissing his ass. In fact, you're just making another little punk for me to play trippee with in the grocery isle. While I enjoy the game, I would hope it would not be necessary since you'd be TEACHING your children instead of giving them everything they want and making my life even more miserable the few times I'm stupid enough to venture outside of my home.
3. Ok, some of you I feel sorry for, some of you should die. If you don't care about your kid, give him to me, I'd happily give him the kind of love and care any child deserves. Especially if it means keeping yet another little bastard from springing forth. I like kids...just not yours, especially after they grow up and try to rob me. For those replacing love with food, or feel that food is how you show your love, it's easy: Get a therapist, hug your kids, and try to learn how to relate to them. Pretend your a silly drunk and fingerpaint with them. The silly drunk act is great when interacting with children. If you've never been silly drunk, I'm sure you've seen it. (not to be mistaken for the crybaby drunk or the violent drunk).
In the meantime, remember, YOU are why you're kid is a fatass. Now this is not to disparage the overweight, I've been there, however, I knew who's fault is was (that would be MINE). And if you want to eat til they get a crane to take you to the hospital, that's your business not mine. Being overweight is NOT a dealbreaker for me. I've dated overweight men, I have overweight friends, I was once overweight myself. However, sometimes you have to be flat out rude to get people to look up from their 6th (by choice) Whopper and cut to the chase. If your kid is a fat ass, YOUR fault, leave MY food alone. Just because your too stupid to eat with some intelligence (no, not bean sprouts you twit, I eat Whoppers too, just not SIX of them), not my problem.
"We're all here to help one another." No, we aren't. We really aren't. Nobody knows what the fuck we're here for. Quite frankly, we are probably just here because we developed faster and stronger than the other animals. My body says if it's starving and your starving, I'm not splitting the fucking fish, it's MINE and if I'm big enough to kick your ass I get to keep it. Yes, sharing is the NICE thing to do, but as we'll eventually find out, when the food supply is low it's every man for himself. And whoever accused me of being nice? I'm not here to monitor your feeding habits or have you interfere with my life because you can't be a parent. I'm not here to help you parent. It does NOT take a village to raise a child. I've seen one person do it lots of times and everyone turned out fine. Everytime you get the village involved, poor kid is shot to hell because noone can agree if you should bust his ass or give him a cookie.
So, take the whopper and/or the money away from the child and leave me alone.
Yeah yeah, I'm here, having a baby and a surgery keeps you plenty busy I tell you. So anyhow, I have a question...where the fuck are all these kids getting the money and for the record how the hell are they sneaking out and grabbing up some mcnuggets? I'm not going to quote it here, there's the link, now RTFA.
We have two conclusions to draw here, one or both of which must be correct:
1. The children have all the money. The 5 year olds are deciding how to spend the paycheck (no wonder the world's finances are all kinds of fucked up)
2. Parents are too (stupid/retarded/weak/lazy/stupid..oh, I said that) to say NO to their children.
Wait, wait, there's a 3rd...out of the 15 billion people in the world there's 10,000 who overfeed their children for whatever reason (as a indication of love, cuz they don't care, whatever).
Guess what, if your kid looks like Violet from Willy Wonka after she eats the berry, in 98% of the cases one of these is you. There is one thing you can draw from all 3 of these conclusions: You're a fuckin' moron. Yes, Jalestra is back in full, non PC swing. Get the rope and burning torches.
1. If you let your children control your finances I can't help you. You're way too stupid to breathe, do me a favor and kill yourself.
2. If for whatever reason you have a problem telling little Jimmy no, you have two options: Learn to say NO, practice it, and then let little Jimmy have it (the NO you twit, not an uppercut) OR...kill yourself. You're doing your child no favors if your kissing his ass. In fact, you're just making another little punk for me to play trippee with in the grocery isle. While I enjoy the game, I would hope it would not be necessary since you'd be TEACHING your children instead of giving them everything they want and making my life even more miserable the few times I'm stupid enough to venture outside of my home.
3. Ok, some of you I feel sorry for, some of you should die. If you don't care about your kid, give him to me, I'd happily give him the kind of love and care any child deserves. Especially if it means keeping yet another little bastard from springing forth. I like kids...just not yours, especially after they grow up and try to rob me. For those replacing love with food, or feel that food is how you show your love, it's easy: Get a therapist, hug your kids, and try to learn how to relate to them. Pretend your a silly drunk and fingerpaint with them. The silly drunk act is great when interacting with children. If you've never been silly drunk, I'm sure you've seen it. (not to be mistaken for the crybaby drunk or the violent drunk).
In the meantime, remember, YOU are why you're kid is a fatass. Now this is not to disparage the overweight, I've been there, however, I knew who's fault is was (that would be MINE). And if you want to eat til they get a crane to take you to the hospital, that's your business not mine. Being overweight is NOT a dealbreaker for me. I've dated overweight men, I have overweight friends, I was once overweight myself. However, sometimes you have to be flat out rude to get people to look up from their 6th (by choice) Whopper and cut to the chase. If your kid is a fat ass, YOUR fault, leave MY food alone. Just because your too stupid to eat with some intelligence (no, not bean sprouts you twit, I eat Whoppers too, just not SIX of them), not my problem.
"We're all here to help one another." No, we aren't. We really aren't. Nobody knows what the fuck we're here for. Quite frankly, we are probably just here because we developed faster and stronger than the other animals. My body says if it's starving and your starving, I'm not splitting the fucking fish, it's MINE and if I'm big enough to kick your ass I get to keep it. Yes, sharing is the NICE thing to do, but as we'll eventually find out, when the food supply is low it's every man for himself. And whoever accused me of being nice? I'm not here to monitor your feeding habits or have you interfere with my life because you can't be a parent. I'm not here to help you parent. It does NOT take a village to raise a child. I've seen one person do it lots of times and everyone turned out fine. Everytime you get the village involved, poor kid is shot to hell because noone can agree if you should bust his ass or give him a cookie.
So, take the whopper and/or the money away from the child and leave me alone.
Wednesday, May 24, 2006
getting married in Second Life
Ok, I really have to get this up even if my page is down.
That is so wierd, my husband and I were discussing this the other day. My question was how many people roleplay themselves into a real life divorce? I can only wonder if they really truly know what they are getting into.
While I consider many of my friendships, not just in SL, but on the net as very real, I just cannot see throwing over your entire real life for a person that may or may not be real. Is this the person you will see when you meet? I know I'm a whole 'nother character when I log on. In second life I am comfortable being silly, nice, and friendly/socialable. But that is something that I cannot acclompish in real life. I just can't get over that mental hump that would allow me to be that way in the real world. I'm a whole different person in the real world; quiet, rude, I find it hard to get to know people or talk to them (makes me extremely uncomfortable). The me you see is not the me you will get when you meet. I mean, SL Jales will still be there and a little more forthcoming than usual...but you see a whole side of me you would never see. How many people are the same? How can anyone accept a SL persona as THE person when you are leaving out so much of their personality???
I guess one could say that this is more of the person than you might ever see in real life. That this is purely them, but no, it can't be purely them. Even in SL you may find yourself in a real life situation (cheating on your SL spouse with another married persona??? ack! LOL), your reaction will still be different for many reasons. Take the cheating instance, even if it is a little extreme:
1. You have no fear you will get shot or the shit beat out of you, so your reaction will be based on that. No fear, so will you wrap your arms around your dolled darling and tell him to go fuck himself? STand up and tell him what a man he's not? Ooo..what a shoutfest...and hey, you can log when you get sick of it.
2. Ok, you probably don't feel badly. Your SL wife comes in and she's been IM'ed with the news from the jealous husband "Your husband was found with my wife in my house today". That much easier to tell her to go fuck herself. I mean, you can do what you want right? And it's not like it's your real life wife (let's negate the whole discussion for the moment on whether you are cheating on her by being married in SL)
You know as well I do that there are no real consequences of your actions. The guys at work are most likely not going to hear about this. There is no real shame involved..well maybe in a very few cases, but you get my point.
So that's not YOU, maybe you are a coward and if this would have happened in real life this dolled darling's shining knight would have been on his knees begging for mercy. Not so pretty a picture now.
So hey geekboy, put down the "uber hottie" avatar here slowly and back away. Little miss plain jane, drop the "sex goddess" avatar. Remember, you don't really KNOW this person, not really. They may have deep thoughts and a great personality online, but don't throw your real wife/husband away for someone you can talk to (no, sex is NOT necessary! imagine that!) without punishment.
Tomorrow: Why the hell would you wanna fuck via avatar? I mean, if you can't touch it, where's the damn fun?
That is so wierd, my husband and I were discussing this the other day. My question was how many people roleplay themselves into a real life divorce? I can only wonder if they really truly know what they are getting into.
While I consider many of my friendships, not just in SL, but on the net as very real, I just cannot see throwing over your entire real life for a person that may or may not be real. Is this the person you will see when you meet? I know I'm a whole 'nother character when I log on. In second life I am comfortable being silly, nice, and friendly/socialable. But that is something that I cannot acclompish in real life. I just can't get over that mental hump that would allow me to be that way in the real world. I'm a whole different person in the real world; quiet, rude, I find it hard to get to know people or talk to them (makes me extremely uncomfortable). The me you see is not the me you will get when you meet. I mean, SL Jales will still be there and a little more forthcoming than usual...but you see a whole side of me you would never see. How many people are the same? How can anyone accept a SL persona as THE person when you are leaving out so much of their personality???
I guess one could say that this is more of the person than you might ever see in real life. That this is purely them, but no, it can't be purely them. Even in SL you may find yourself in a real life situation (cheating on your SL spouse with another married persona??? ack! LOL), your reaction will still be different for many reasons. Take the cheating instance, even if it is a little extreme:
1. You have no fear you will get shot or the shit beat out of you, so your reaction will be based on that. No fear, so will you wrap your arms around your dolled darling and tell him to go fuck himself? STand up and tell him what a man he's not? Ooo..what a shoutfest...and hey, you can log when you get sick of it.
2. Ok, you probably don't feel badly. Your SL wife comes in and she's been IM'ed with the news from the jealous husband "Your husband was found with my wife in my house today". That much easier to tell her to go fuck herself. I mean, you can do what you want right? And it's not like it's your real life wife (let's negate the whole discussion for the moment on whether you are cheating on her by being married in SL)
You know as well I do that there are no real consequences of your actions. The guys at work are most likely not going to hear about this. There is no real shame involved..well maybe in a very few cases, but you get my point.
So that's not YOU, maybe you are a coward and if this would have happened in real life this dolled darling's shining knight would have been on his knees begging for mercy. Not so pretty a picture now.
So hey geekboy, put down the "uber hottie" avatar here slowly and back away. Little miss plain jane, drop the "sex goddess" avatar. Remember, you don't really KNOW this person, not really. They may have deep thoughts and a great personality online, but don't throw your real wife/husband away for someone you can talk to (no, sex is NOT necessary! imagine that!) without punishment.
Tomorrow: Why the hell would you wanna fuck via avatar? I mean, if you can't touch it, where's the damn fun?
Thursday, March 30, 2006
Ah, the joys of small town living...and of course, idiots
For the record, before I get off on my little bitchfest, I'm moving the blog to a personal page of my own where I can set up everything exactly as I want it....as soon as I have everything exactly as I want it. I will link it when I get it done.
I spoke with several members of my family yesterday and caught up on what's going on with them. Well, my gran wanted to know if I knew so and so and I said no. He ran for some small town office back when we lived there, but I never knew him personally. He ran for like mayor or judge or something. It was before we moved and I don't recall if he won or not (obviously not now that I think about it). Don't really care. And the town isn't big enough to actually use a website for the news (hell, they barely have a newspaper) so no linkage ftm. Hmm..might check Abilene news..one sec. Nah, guess not..maybe soon. Anyhow, so the fella was somehow implicated in child porn. His home was searched, and boy is he guilty. Pictures found (ones HE took, not downloaded ones), etc.
Apparently this man was left with a baby daughter to raise when he got divorced years ago (and who knows what he did with her and her friends *shudders*). And apparently this all came about when his daughter moved out and he was still picking up young girls and having them stay the night. HIs modus operandi seems to be buying the girls gifts, extending to even new cars. I think as a parent, I'd be a bit suspicious if my little girl brought back a vehicle one day and I didn't pay for it! Not to mention cell phones and lingerie....So apparently these rumors of his proclivities have been going around for YEARS. So, here's the questions:
I KNOW small town gossip, I lived in this town off and on for years as an adult and a child. This guy was a "upstanding figure", so you could be deaf and you heard people talking about him. Where the hell were the parents and what were they thinking? A man is picking up your young daughter (13-16 and there's the possibility of younger) to come stay the night at his house, gives her nice gifts, NOT SUSPICIOUS???? Ok ok, so you can't lock your child in a box, gotcha, I agree. However, someone starts buying gifts for my child and she's asking to stay over, I would definitely say the "safe than sorry" route would be paramount in my mind. Of course, I also don't believe the tv is a babysitter, so I'm a little wierd to start with I guess.
Why is it people think just because someone is "upstanding" means they can do no wrong? Especially considering the news today. Congressmen picked up for child porn, Jeffrey Dahmer, but yet Joe Blow who ran for county judge can't be any less than a swell guy because well, he did run for judge! And stop and think about this, you are not blowing off a guy who might come in and steal your tv. You are blowing off a man that can hurt your CHILD. Really people, is it worth the fucking chance???? Have you lost your everloving minds???? This isn't an adult or a tv, this is a CHILD. You know, young, naive, defenseless?? Are you getting a picture here? We're talking YEARS of therapy, possibly medication, unwanted pregnancies, their future in ruins, and the possibility that they become so messed up that they become sickos themselves. THIS is what you want for your child just so you can say "I know this guy"????
Now, I'm not one of those "everything for the children". Nope, can't stand it myself. I truly believe that when it comes to the things I do, I'm no longer a child and refuse to halt my behavior just because you want to raise your child in a vacuum. However, in those cases we are talking about cursing, watching violent television. We are NOT talking about the rape/molestation of a child.
He moved one girl in: So um, hey mom, what the fuck were you doing? What kind of mother lets her young daughter move in with a middle aged man and shower her with gifts?????
Maybe I'm getting a bit irate at the wrong thing. Having come from this town (and boy has this happened before there), I know some girls there are a lot less than innocent. However, isn't it our job as parents to watch out for these things and to keep them from happening to our children? Even if our children are a lot less than innocent, does that negate our responsibility to teach them that they are not prostitutes? Or to protect them from those that would take advantage of them? Has society succumbed to lazy parenting? YES, it has.
With the government running more and more of our households, taking decisions away from parents that used to be the parents decisions, we have encouraged parents to let society raise our children and not ourselves. Who knows our children better than we do? Who knows what our individual children need more than we do? Who knows what signs our children are showing more than we do? Damn sure not 100 guys across the country who's never met US, let alone our children!
Our job as parents is to protect our children and guide them to be good adults that are happy with themselves. By protection I do NOT mean "no tv except Disney" and "cover up that statue of David so little Annie doesn't see a penis". I mean that sometimes to protect you have to educate. And you CAN educate your child without scaring the living shit out of them or making them terrified of everyone who passes them. I've discussed sexual molestation since before my girls could understand what I'm talking about. Make it a regular occurence and stay within what they can understand. Even a 4 year old knows pain and shame. It's not too hard to say "If someone touches you somewhere that bothers you or makes you feel bad or hurt you, you come tell me". And don't leave it at that! These predators are masterful manipulators! They will say things to convince your child not to tell, and they are GOOD. You can use the feelings your child has to help them. You know almost all children believe that mommy and daddy are invincible and can save the world. USE THAT! "No matter what anyone says, you come tell me. Noone is big enough to kill me, especially if they have hurt you." "Don't ever let someone tell you that if you tell me something I won't love you anymore. I will always love you no matter what happens." And SHOW them...a child cannot believe in your love, have faith in your protection unless you show them that it's warranted. And for goodness sake, pay attention to your children. I know where my kids are at all times. I know how they react to stress, I know how they act when they've done something wrong, I know how they react when they feel they've been denied fairness or justice or have been unfairly punished. Don't stop mentioning just because now they are 13. Reinforce it! Now they are dealing with a whole new set of possibilities. Like the girls in the town, now they are getting to an age where they are learning they can get a man's attention (or a woman's, this doesn't sexually discriminate) and that sometimes you can get stuff out of a man. And at this point this is not just about rape/molestation, this is also about values and self respect. This is about the new things they will be told and tempted to give into or believe. Remember back to when you were a teenager and the goofy shit you fell for...your kid is no more immune than you are to fall for the goofy shit. And sometimes the goofy shit can hurt them (my mother once told me that there was a rash of bouncing girls when she was a teenager because some of the guys told the girls that if they jumped up and down after sex they wouldn't get pregnant, big surprise a bunch ended up pregnant huh?)
Ah, why bother? Red flags were thrown up about this guy for years and so many ignored them. The good parents are already paying attention and the rest never will...
I spoke with several members of my family yesterday and caught up on what's going on with them. Well, my gran wanted to know if I knew so and so and I said no. He ran for some small town office back when we lived there, but I never knew him personally. He ran for like mayor or judge or something. It was before we moved and I don't recall if he won or not (obviously not now that I think about it). Don't really care. And the town isn't big enough to actually use a website for the news (hell, they barely have a newspaper) so no linkage ftm. Hmm..might check Abilene news..one sec. Nah, guess not..maybe soon. Anyhow, so the fella was somehow implicated in child porn. His home was searched, and boy is he guilty. Pictures found (ones HE took, not downloaded ones), etc.
Apparently this man was left with a baby daughter to raise when he got divorced years ago (and who knows what he did with her and her friends *shudders*). And apparently this all came about when his daughter moved out and he was still picking up young girls and having them stay the night. HIs modus operandi seems to be buying the girls gifts, extending to even new cars. I think as a parent, I'd be a bit suspicious if my little girl brought back a vehicle one day and I didn't pay for it! Not to mention cell phones and lingerie....So apparently these rumors of his proclivities have been going around for YEARS. So, here's the questions:
I KNOW small town gossip, I lived in this town off and on for years as an adult and a child. This guy was a "upstanding figure", so you could be deaf and you heard people talking about him. Where the hell were the parents and what were they thinking? A man is picking up your young daughter (13-16 and there's the possibility of younger) to come stay the night at his house, gives her nice gifts, NOT SUSPICIOUS???? Ok ok, so you can't lock your child in a box, gotcha, I agree. However, someone starts buying gifts for my child and she's asking to stay over, I would definitely say the "safe than sorry" route would be paramount in my mind. Of course, I also don't believe the tv is a babysitter, so I'm a little wierd to start with I guess.
Why is it people think just because someone is "upstanding" means they can do no wrong? Especially considering the news today. Congressmen picked up for child porn, Jeffrey Dahmer, but yet Joe Blow who ran for county judge can't be any less than a swell guy because well, he did run for judge! And stop and think about this, you are not blowing off a guy who might come in and steal your tv. You are blowing off a man that can hurt your CHILD. Really people, is it worth the fucking chance???? Have you lost your everloving minds???? This isn't an adult or a tv, this is a CHILD. You know, young, naive, defenseless?? Are you getting a picture here? We're talking YEARS of therapy, possibly medication, unwanted pregnancies, their future in ruins, and the possibility that they become so messed up that they become sickos themselves. THIS is what you want for your child just so you can say "I know this guy"????
Now, I'm not one of those "everything for the children". Nope, can't stand it myself. I truly believe that when it comes to the things I do, I'm no longer a child and refuse to halt my behavior just because you want to raise your child in a vacuum. However, in those cases we are talking about cursing, watching violent television. We are NOT talking about the rape/molestation of a child.
He moved one girl in: So um, hey mom, what the fuck were you doing? What kind of mother lets her young daughter move in with a middle aged man and shower her with gifts?????
Maybe I'm getting a bit irate at the wrong thing. Having come from this town (and boy has this happened before there), I know some girls there are a lot less than innocent. However, isn't it our job as parents to watch out for these things and to keep them from happening to our children? Even if our children are a lot less than innocent, does that negate our responsibility to teach them that they are not prostitutes? Or to protect them from those that would take advantage of them? Has society succumbed to lazy parenting? YES, it has.
With the government running more and more of our households, taking decisions away from parents that used to be the parents decisions, we have encouraged parents to let society raise our children and not ourselves. Who knows our children better than we do? Who knows what our individual children need more than we do? Who knows what signs our children are showing more than we do? Damn sure not 100 guys across the country who's never met US, let alone our children!
Our job as parents is to protect our children and guide them to be good adults that are happy with themselves. By protection I do NOT mean "no tv except Disney" and "cover up that statue of David so little Annie doesn't see a penis". I mean that sometimes to protect you have to educate. And you CAN educate your child without scaring the living shit out of them or making them terrified of everyone who passes them. I've discussed sexual molestation since before my girls could understand what I'm talking about. Make it a regular occurence and stay within what they can understand. Even a 4 year old knows pain and shame. It's not too hard to say "If someone touches you somewhere that bothers you or makes you feel bad or hurt you, you come tell me". And don't leave it at that! These predators are masterful manipulators! They will say things to convince your child not to tell, and they are GOOD. You can use the feelings your child has to help them. You know almost all children believe that mommy and daddy are invincible and can save the world. USE THAT! "No matter what anyone says, you come tell me. Noone is big enough to kill me, especially if they have hurt you." "Don't ever let someone tell you that if you tell me something I won't love you anymore. I will always love you no matter what happens." And SHOW them...a child cannot believe in your love, have faith in your protection unless you show them that it's warranted. And for goodness sake, pay attention to your children. I know where my kids are at all times. I know how they react to stress, I know how they act when they've done something wrong, I know how they react when they feel they've been denied fairness or justice or have been unfairly punished. Don't stop mentioning just because now they are 13. Reinforce it! Now they are dealing with a whole new set of possibilities. Like the girls in the town, now they are getting to an age where they are learning they can get a man's attention (or a woman's, this doesn't sexually discriminate) and that sometimes you can get stuff out of a man. And at this point this is not just about rape/molestation, this is also about values and self respect. This is about the new things they will be told and tempted to give into or believe. Remember back to when you were a teenager and the goofy shit you fell for...your kid is no more immune than you are to fall for the goofy shit. And sometimes the goofy shit can hurt them (my mother once told me that there was a rash of bouncing girls when she was a teenager because some of the guys told the girls that if they jumped up and down after sex they wouldn't get pregnant, big surprise a bunch ended up pregnant huh?)
Ah, why bother? Red flags were thrown up about this guy for years and so many ignored them. The good parents are already paying attention and the rest never will...
Monday, March 27, 2006
Simple People
Gravity kills, smoking kills, obesity kills, breathing kills. People actually believe this shit...People. Are. Idiots.
Let's go into how this all started: Yesterday my daughter asked a question about gravity. Actually, she asked about inertia, but she didn't know that when she asked. She ASKED about gravity and was corrected. Anyhow, that's really not the point. The point is the subject came up. Later she makes the statement "gravity kills". Naturally S and I want to know where this conclusion comes from. As far as we know, gravity has never killed anyone. So H explains how if you jump from a 10 story building you will die. Ok, I laughed. Not the demeaning "you're an idiot" laugh. Just the simplistic child view of things that is generally amusing. So I explain that no, gravity doesn't kill and neither does falling, it's the sudden stop at the end that gets you. At which point, with all of a child's logic (and from her end of things this is quite logical and technically I could suppose she is correct), that if there was no gravity then it wouldn't kill you.
And then it hit me. How many fuckin' adults have the logic of a 10 year old child and refuse to progress to something more advanced. My 10 year old actually now grasps why one would be wrong to say "gravity kills", however she has acclompished something that many, hell most, adults have yet to acclompish...reasonable thought is in her grasp. And I thought about it, and the fallacy in the statement, and yet how many otherwise intelligent people continue to make such idiotic statements AND DEFEND THEM! Even when normally they wouldn't!
Let's go here: "Smoking kills". Big anti tobacco thing, you just say smoking kills and watch the little idiots run in fear, screaming their heads off. However, if you say "breathing kills", these EXACT SAME PEOPLE will SCOFF at you for being so simplistically ridiculous. They will even give you the EXACT SAME ARGUEMENT that proves why "smoking kills" is such a ridiculous statement and yet if you point it out, these idiots have the unmitigated gall to actually say "well that's different". But it's not.
While technically the statement "gravity kills" is ultimately correct, it's a highly misleading statement. If gravity kills, then we'd all be dead if we jumped 4 cm off the ground. As I've yet to see a rash of jumping related deaths, I'm going to assume gravity works the same as usual. You jump from a 20 story building, no parachute, make it through the fall as usual, hit the ground and die. You jump froma 20 story building, parachute, make it through the fall, land lightly on the ground, live. So there are two several seperate factors here: parachute possession, impact with the ground, gravity, building size. Now, building size is the same, so that's not what makes you live. You don't die from the fall, so gravity is not the issue here. You have two things that changed; 1. You had a parachute in one, and not in the other 2. The impact with the ground was changed by the parachute. While being slightly more honest one could stop here and say lack of parachutes kill, but that's not really the case is it? I mean, that's a pretty broad statement. People go without parachutes all the time and they don't die. One could say height kills, but being up high didn't kill you either. In fact, both times all was actually going very well until you got to the impact part. There is the fundamental difference! One could stop there and say Impact kills, and you'd be a hell of a lot closer to correct than gravity kills is..however, there are various kinds of impact right? At what level is impact fatal? So you do 500 experiments with different heights etc until you can narrow it down, then you release a completely accurate statement: "Impact with hard objects are fatal from 20 miles an hour on up if you land on your head"Maybe you release 30 statements "Impact with hard objects with your legs are fatal at 30 miles and up" "Impact with hard objects from a height of 20 stories no matter what you land on are fatal" Whatever. But all are now accurate and thoroughly educating statements. So what we now know is that you can jump and play in gravity all day long and nothing will happen to you, but if you climb a large building and jump and impact with a hard surface at certain speeds, you will die. Obviously a statement of some significance or we'd lose the entire sport of basketball...In fact, if we had been raised on the simple statement of "gravity kills", we wouldn't have had basketball, jump ropes, and a good portion of follow the leader would be gone. All this is very logical. In fact, it's so naturally accepted we don't even quote studies anymore to prove that gravity does not kill, impact with the ground from certain heights or at certain speeds do. It's pretty much common sense that gravity does not kill.
So wtf is wrong with people that they accept these scare tactic statements that "obesity kills" or "smoking kills"? Hell, with the simplistic, childish arguements like this, I can prove with NO effort that breathing kills, because you wouldn't stop breathing if you weren't breathing to start with.
Let's go into how this all started: Yesterday my daughter asked a question about gravity. Actually, she asked about inertia, but she didn't know that when she asked. She ASKED about gravity and was corrected. Anyhow, that's really not the point. The point is the subject came up. Later she makes the statement "gravity kills". Naturally S and I want to know where this conclusion comes from. As far as we know, gravity has never killed anyone. So H explains how if you jump from a 10 story building you will die. Ok, I laughed. Not the demeaning "you're an idiot" laugh. Just the simplistic child view of things that is generally amusing. So I explain that no, gravity doesn't kill and neither does falling, it's the sudden stop at the end that gets you. At which point, with all of a child's logic (and from her end of things this is quite logical and technically I could suppose she is correct), that if there was no gravity then it wouldn't kill you.
And then it hit me. How many fuckin' adults have the logic of a 10 year old child and refuse to progress to something more advanced. My 10 year old actually now grasps why one would be wrong to say "gravity kills", however she has acclompished something that many, hell most, adults have yet to acclompish...reasonable thought is in her grasp. And I thought about it, and the fallacy in the statement, and yet how many otherwise intelligent people continue to make such idiotic statements AND DEFEND THEM! Even when normally they wouldn't!
Let's go here: "Smoking kills". Big anti tobacco thing, you just say smoking kills and watch the little idiots run in fear, screaming their heads off. However, if you say "breathing kills", these EXACT SAME PEOPLE will SCOFF at you for being so simplistically ridiculous. They will even give you the EXACT SAME ARGUEMENT that proves why "smoking kills" is such a ridiculous statement and yet if you point it out, these idiots have the unmitigated gall to actually say "well that's different". But it's not.
While technically the statement "gravity kills" is ultimately correct, it's a highly misleading statement. If gravity kills, then we'd all be dead if we jumped 4 cm off the ground. As I've yet to see a rash of jumping related deaths, I'm going to assume gravity works the same as usual. You jump from a 20 story building, no parachute, make it through the fall as usual, hit the ground and die. You jump froma 20 story building, parachute, make it through the fall, land lightly on the ground, live. So there are two several seperate factors here: parachute possession, impact with the ground, gravity, building size. Now, building size is the same, so that's not what makes you live. You don't die from the fall, so gravity is not the issue here. You have two things that changed; 1. You had a parachute in one, and not in the other 2. The impact with the ground was changed by the parachute. While being slightly more honest one could stop here and say lack of parachutes kill, but that's not really the case is it? I mean, that's a pretty broad statement. People go without parachutes all the time and they don't die. One could say height kills, but being up high didn't kill you either. In fact, both times all was actually going very well until you got to the impact part. There is the fundamental difference! One could stop there and say Impact kills, and you'd be a hell of a lot closer to correct than gravity kills is..however, there are various kinds of impact right? At what level is impact fatal? So you do 500 experiments with different heights etc until you can narrow it down, then you release a completely accurate statement: "Impact with hard objects are fatal from 20 miles an hour on up if you land on your head"Maybe you release 30 statements "Impact with hard objects with your legs are fatal at 30 miles and up" "Impact with hard objects from a height of 20 stories no matter what you land on are fatal" Whatever. But all are now accurate and thoroughly educating statements. So what we now know is that you can jump and play in gravity all day long and nothing will happen to you, but if you climb a large building and jump and impact with a hard surface at certain speeds, you will die. Obviously a statement of some significance or we'd lose the entire sport of basketball...In fact, if we had been raised on the simple statement of "gravity kills", we wouldn't have had basketball, jump ropes, and a good portion of follow the leader would be gone. All this is very logical. In fact, it's so naturally accepted we don't even quote studies anymore to prove that gravity does not kill, impact with the ground from certain heights or at certain speeds do. It's pretty much common sense that gravity does not kill.
So wtf is wrong with people that they accept these scare tactic statements that "obesity kills" or "smoking kills"? Hell, with the simplistic, childish arguements like this, I can prove with NO effort that breathing kills, because you wouldn't stop breathing if you weren't breathing to start with.
Wednesday, March 08, 2006
Personal Responsibility
It's funny how that phrase has altered so much in the last few years. It does not mean that one must act in the socially defined "responsible" way. It means that an individual be responsible for the choices they make.
Accepting personal responsibility includes:
Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life.
Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think.
Accepting that you choose the direction for your life.
Accepting that you cannot blame others for the choices you have made.
Tearing down the mask of defense or rationale for why others are responsible for who you are, what has happened to you, and what you are bound to become.
The rational belief that you are responsible for determining who your are, and how your choices affect your life.
Pointing the finger of responsibility back to yourself and away from others when you are discussing the consequences of your actions. (not btw, how MY actions influence you, but YOUR OWN actions and choices)
Realizing that you determine your feelings about any events or actions addressed to you, no matter how negative they seem.
Recognizing that you are your best cheerleader; it is not reasonable or healthy for you to depend on others to make you feel good about yourself.
Recognizing that as you enter adulthood and maturity, you determine how your self-esteem will develop.
Not feeling sorry for the ``bum deal'' you have been handed but taking hold of your life and giving it direction and reason.
When you have not accepted personal responsibility, you can run the risk of becoming:
Chronically hostile, angry, or depressed over how unfairly you have been or are being treated.
Fearful about ever taking a risk or making a decision.
Overwhelmed by disabling fears.
Over responsible in your need to rescue others in your life.
What do people believe who have not accepted personal responsibility?
I want you to fix me.
How can you say I am responsible for what happens to me in the future? There is fate, luck, politics, greed, envy, wicked and jealous people, and other negative influences that have a greater bearing on my future than I have. (Yeah, blame McDonald's and the smokers)
What terms are used to describe those who have not accepted personal responsibility?
martyrs. self-pitying, depressed, losers, quitters, chronically angry, BLAMERS, fearful, hostile, aggressive, irresponsible, weak, neurotic, obsessed
In order to accept personal responsibility you need to develop the ability to:
Be open to new ideas or concepts about life and the human condition.
Refute irrational beliefs and overcome fears.
RECOGNIZE THAT YOU ARE THE SOLE DETERMINANT OF THE CHOICES YOU MAKE.
RECOGNIZE THAT YOU CHOOSE YOUR RESPONSES TO THE PEOPLE, ACTIONS, AND EVENTS IN YOUR LIFE.
Realize that you are the party in charge of the direction your life takes.
Which shows you how the notion of "personal responsibility" gets easily twisted . Nowadays it means that each individual, even in his deepest, most intimate choices is actually responsible to Society at Large-- a fine Maoist concept-- or else to His Employer-- a fine Fascist concept. (Walt)
So for those unsure of what personal responsibility actually is, here is a definition of what personal responsibility means:
So for those unsure of what personal responsibility actually is, here is a definition of what personal responsibility means:
Accepting personal responsibility includes:
Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life.
Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think.
Accepting that you choose the direction for your life.
Accepting that you cannot blame others for the choices you have made.
Tearing down the mask of defense or rationale for why others are responsible for who you are, what has happened to you, and what you are bound to become.
The rational belief that you are responsible for determining who your are, and how your choices affect your life.
Pointing the finger of responsibility back to yourself and away from others when you are discussing the consequences of your actions. (not btw, how MY actions influence you, but YOUR OWN actions and choices)
Realizing that you determine your feelings about any events or actions addressed to you, no matter how negative they seem.
Recognizing that you are your best cheerleader; it is not reasonable or healthy for you to depend on others to make you feel good about yourself.
Recognizing that as you enter adulthood and maturity, you determine how your self-esteem will develop.
Not feeling sorry for the ``bum deal'' you have been handed but taking hold of your life and giving it direction and reason.
When you have not accepted personal responsibility, you can run the risk of becoming:
Chronically hostile, angry, or depressed over how unfairly you have been or are being treated.
Fearful about ever taking a risk or making a decision.
Overwhelmed by disabling fears.
Over responsible in your need to rescue others in your life.
What do people believe who have not accepted personal responsibility?
I want you to fix me.
How can you say I am responsible for what happens to me in the future? There is fate, luck, politics, greed, envy, wicked and jealous people, and other negative influences that have a greater bearing on my future than I have. (Yeah, blame McDonald's and the smokers)
What terms are used to describe those who have not accepted personal responsibility?
martyrs. self-pitying, depressed, losers, quitters, chronically angry, BLAMERS, fearful, hostile, aggressive, irresponsible, weak, neurotic, obsessed
In order to accept personal responsibility you need to develop the ability to:
Be open to new ideas or concepts about life and the human condition.
Refute irrational beliefs and overcome fears.
RECOGNIZE THAT YOU ARE THE SOLE DETERMINANT OF THE CHOICES YOU MAKE.
RECOGNIZE THAT YOU CHOOSE YOUR RESPONSES TO THE PEOPLE, ACTIONS, AND EVENTS IN YOUR LIFE.
Realize that you are the party in charge of the direction your life takes.
Monday, March 06, 2006
more stuffage
Getting closer and closer...not sure if it will be much longer until the baby is born. Signs are showing it's imminent. In the meantime I've been preparing for the arrival of Junior here.
The guys showed up to fix the house for 2 days. Ripped 2 ceilings down, put up the replacements, then left. They still have to paint and put my ceiling fan back up, but I haven't seen them for a week, so I guess they will get around to it *sighs*. If it's AFTER the baby is born I have to say NO, can't have the new baby breathing shit in like that. I'm half tempted to call the landlord and tell him that, but due to my lack of diplomacy, Steve doesn't want me to do that. *whistles innocently*
M seems to have done something with my Sims 2 game. I guess she thought she was helping one day while cleaning and tossed it for me. So I guess I'll have to buy a new Sims 2 game. Sure would like to pick that up today, may do that. Steve is home sick. Poor guy feels like hell. But it's about a week late. He ALWAYS gets sick this time of year. Hell, it's the ONLY time of year he gets sick. I hope he'll feel a bit better in a bit and can tell me what exactly is wrong so I know what kind of medicine to buy. Until then it's best to let him sleep. No fever though, just sore throat as far as I know. Like I said, will have to wait until he's awake to find out all that's wrong. Ok, breakfast time. Later.
The guys showed up to fix the house for 2 days. Ripped 2 ceilings down, put up the replacements, then left. They still have to paint and put my ceiling fan back up, but I haven't seen them for a week, so I guess they will get around to it *sighs*. If it's AFTER the baby is born I have to say NO, can't have the new baby breathing shit in like that. I'm half tempted to call the landlord and tell him that, but due to my lack of diplomacy, Steve doesn't want me to do that. *whistles innocently*
M seems to have done something with my Sims 2 game. I guess she thought she was helping one day while cleaning and tossed it for me. So I guess I'll have to buy a new Sims 2 game. Sure would like to pick that up today, may do that. Steve is home sick. Poor guy feels like hell. But it's about a week late. He ALWAYS gets sick this time of year. Hell, it's the ONLY time of year he gets sick. I hope he'll feel a bit better in a bit and can tell me what exactly is wrong so I know what kind of medicine to buy. Until then it's best to let him sleep. No fever though, just sore throat as far as I know. Like I said, will have to wait until he's awake to find out all that's wrong. Ok, breakfast time. Later.
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Sports, Acting, and Dicks
Something I noticed the other night; apparently it's quite acceptable to be a complete and utter dick in sports and acting. Case of epiphany: Bobby Knight. I don't watch sports, but my husband does....alot. I've heard of this guy before. He's abusive to his players, loses it on a regular basis, is a complete and utter asshole. So I see him on tv and I asked my husband, "Isn't that the guy that's such an asshole?" And he says yes, so I ask "So why is he on tv and still employed?". I ask this because this isn't a case of he's just an asshole, this is a case of he's a fuckin' psycho. My husband says, "Yes, but he's the best basketball coach there is. Do you know how many wins he's responsible for?" So I get to thinking, and that's also the case in acting. You say, boy that (fill in actor's name here) is a real dick (or bitch) and the response will be similar; "Yeah, but do you know how many movies he sells??"
You know, noone says that about anyone else? Noone says "boy that John's a prick, but he's a fireman. Do you know how many lives he's saved?" or "Man, that Sandy is a bitch, but she's a cop. Do you know how many bullets she's taken for people?" Noone excuses the asshole-ness of the regular folk. If John or Sandy act like an asshole then they are just assholes. There's no quantifier. This is only one sign of the complete lack of perception inherent in people. It's completely acceptable for a sports "star"/actor to behave in a completely unacceptable manner, and people will still fawn over them. What is wrong with you people?
You know, noone says that about anyone else? Noone says "boy that John's a prick, but he's a fireman. Do you know how many lives he's saved?" or "Man, that Sandy is a bitch, but she's a cop. Do you know how many bullets she's taken for people?" Noone excuses the asshole-ness of the regular folk. If John or Sandy act like an asshole then they are just assholes. There's no quantifier. This is only one sign of the complete lack of perception inherent in people. It's completely acceptable for a sports "star"/actor to behave in a completely unacceptable manner, and people will still fawn over them. What is wrong with you people?
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Stuffage
Ah, what's going on the last couple of days...went to a regular doctor's appt and all is well. Went again to a second for glucose testing, I'm assuming if all is not well they will call me. I am a bit annoyed tho...
Does NO doctor actually finish his job?? I have an awesome doctor, I really like him alot and I'm very comfortable with him. However, what is wrong with these doctors? I'm delivering a baby. I go to all the effort to find a good doctor that I am comfortable with and feel I can trust to get me and my baby through this safely...but if he's not on call or it's not during the week, well, he's not delivering. WTF? Why go to the effort at all to find a doctor? Why not just have all the doctors line up like an assembly line and you just go to the first available. I asked the nurse about this and she says "Do you really think he'd let someone do it who's incompetent?" Well, it's a matter of trust. I chose my doctor for his age, he's an old man. The reason being is that older doctors are much less likely to be the ones passing out pills for every little ill, usually take a common sense approach to medicine, and tell you what you NEED to hear instead of what you want to hear. Now, one of his associates is a doctor I tried to go to at the beginning of my pregnancy and she was such a bitch I left in the middle of the appt. She's a very competent doctor, but she's got a serious attitude problem. Now, not knowing her personally, who's to say that she isn't someone who would do something spiteful? Or unnecessary? Not to mention, who the fuck wants a cunt (yeah yeah, I hear you, hahaha) at their delivery? She delivered my last baby (again, MY doctor wasn't available), and when I tore (yeah, TORE) she said, that's your fault, you shouldn't have stopped pushing. Hello? You can only push so much before you have to get a breath and try again. If you could just continually push, then no woman would ever tear. Ah, phone, might finish this bitch fest later.
Does NO doctor actually finish his job?? I have an awesome doctor, I really like him alot and I'm very comfortable with him. However, what is wrong with these doctors? I'm delivering a baby. I go to all the effort to find a good doctor that I am comfortable with and feel I can trust to get me and my baby through this safely...but if he's not on call or it's not during the week, well, he's not delivering. WTF? Why go to the effort at all to find a doctor? Why not just have all the doctors line up like an assembly line and you just go to the first available. I asked the nurse about this and she says "Do you really think he'd let someone do it who's incompetent?" Well, it's a matter of trust. I chose my doctor for his age, he's an old man. The reason being is that older doctors are much less likely to be the ones passing out pills for every little ill, usually take a common sense approach to medicine, and tell you what you NEED to hear instead of what you want to hear. Now, one of his associates is a doctor I tried to go to at the beginning of my pregnancy and she was such a bitch I left in the middle of the appt. She's a very competent doctor, but she's got a serious attitude problem. Now, not knowing her personally, who's to say that she isn't someone who would do something spiteful? Or unnecessary? Not to mention, who the fuck wants a cunt (yeah yeah, I hear you, hahaha) at their delivery? She delivered my last baby (again, MY doctor wasn't available), and when I tore (yeah, TORE) she said, that's your fault, you shouldn't have stopped pushing. Hello? You can only push so much before you have to get a breath and try again. If you could just continually push, then no woman would ever tear. Ah, phone, might finish this bitch fest later.
Monday, February 13, 2006
Long absence
The problem with starting something like this is that you have good intentions, however, you just get so busy you forget. And yeah, I'd definitely say I've been busy. In 2 months we will be having our baby boy. Where have I been for the last year? Mostly gestating. And dividing my time horribly between trying to keep up with today's news, online gaming, and just generally getting on my husband's nerves. I've had rants and rants galore, just no time to get them down. And with a 2 year old AND a new baby, I'm worried I still won't have time. But possibly, just maybe, I will. I could use the outflow here, might make less stress on me in my daily life and the husband would LOVE that. Then again, so would I. Feel free to leave your opinions, I won't promise they will stay there, but I can promise I'll give them the attention they deserve. Disagree with me, you stay. Make no sense, shout obsenities, be obnoxious, you go. Very easy...Have a good day...I'm sure we'll see one another later...
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